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  • Help?

    The LGBT Community is a small community but they are real and they exist. Some have come out without complications and they are the lucky ones, however, some have a hard time coming out due to some reasons. How can we help, then? Or we do even need to help them come out?

  • #2
    There was once an experimental thing that my friend and I did. I told my mom that I was officially dating her. Of course, she kinda freaked out at first, like my dad. But as soon as they met her, they seem to be comfortable about it. It automatically came to their minds that I like girls as well. I guess it's a matter of understanding and acceptance. My parents are understanding like that. We're living in the present, people are more expressive. So, I guess it won't be too hard to explain yourself that you're an LGBT.
    Last edited by bollersdiorite; 07-26-2019, 06:35 AM.


    • guana
      guana commented
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      Whoa, I'm surprised that you and your friend would come up with something like that. But I'm more surprised as to how your parents react with that kind of experiment. They seem to be cool about it, they're the best kind of parents!

    • lipspotatochips
      lipspotatochips commented
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      I think that shock and non-acceptance are the first reactions of family members when someone comes out. Who had thought of that experiment?

  • #3
    I have few friends who belong to the LGBT community. Since I am not really best friends with them, I am not aware of their coming out stories. Are there really people who could not come out?


    • flabbybecrux
      flabbybecrux commented
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      You can search for 'coming out' stories on the internet. You can tell if it's real or fake but at least you'll get the idea that you're looking for.

    • Teamnessa
      Teamnessa commented
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      Unfortunately, there are. Some reasons are their own family. And for the others, the restrictive culture.

    • LessSalt
      LessSalt commented
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      Teamnessa If their culture restricts it, then what are they going to do? Would they remain in hiding for the rest of their lives?

  • #4
    It is easy to say that we need to help the people who have difficult times of coming out. But the question still remains: how? They may have various circumstances. As they say, it is easier said than done.


    • skuzzvibe
      skuzzvibe commented
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      My cousin came out gay 3 years later but his father already knew. He's just waiting for him to tell him about it. He didn't shamed or discouraged him, instead they went out for a dinner together with his boyfriend.

    • fanghang
      fanghang commented
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      skuzzvibe Are they still together with his boyfriend? Or does he have a new boyfriend now?

    • blizzss
      blizzss commented
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      Actually, yes. You have a point. We could say that we could help them. But then, how would we be able to help them? Everyone has his own unique case.

  • #5
    I think we need to support our families and friends who are member of the LGBT community. Support in the sense that we need to understand and accept who they are. It is not the thing that they wanted; it just happened. Like for me, for example, I did not plan to be a female. I born as a female. There was no choice to be a female. It was given at birth. They have the same situation, too. They were born to be an LGBT.


    • morningglory
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      The fact that there are some families or allies out there that are still missing the point. The whole point of what LGBTQ is about. They do support them but it goes in terms and conditions. Some will say that they support their gay cousin for being gay but condemns other gay people for being sinners as to being GAY. A guy would simply say he does not support same-sex marriage but enjoys fapping to lesbian porn.

    • dandeliontoes
      dandeliontoes commented
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      morningglory There are people who are just selective with what they want to have. But what can the world do? Ignore them, perhaps?

  • #6
    I do not think that we need to help them anymore. I mean, I can tolerate them. So I guess that I do not need to do anything. They can take of themselves already. If they think that they need to come out, let them be. If they think that they should not yet come out, then let them be. If they are having a hard time coming out due to some reasons, give them time to sort things out. Let us not interfere with them.


    • shizzlygizzly
      shizzlygizzly commented
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      Are you saying that we should just leave them alone even if others need some support?

    • AlivePerfect
      AlivePerfect commented
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      shizzlygizzly If they specifically asked for a help, then I think that that would be the time to help them. Otherwise, let us just leave them alone to solve their own issues.

  • #7
    Do you have a family member or a close friend who belongs to the LGBT community? If yes, I think that you need to help them come out if the society permits it. I know that there are some countries where you could never come out at all.


    • stevemcdream
      stevemcdream commented
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      Some countries are still wired to the past civilization.Thus, they still act like savages to modern people (which most of em are part of the LGBTQ community).

  • #8
    Leave them alone. No need to help. They are not dumb and they know what they are doing.


    • PearBear
      PearBear commented
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      Same thought here, actually. We should not mind their own businesses. Everyone of us has its own monsters to tame.

    • veggieperker
      veggieperker commented
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      I think that what she's talking about is during the times when you obviously know that they need your help and they're pretending that they're not

    • koshercassanova
      koshercassanova commented
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      Yeah. They are not dumb so let us leave them alone. I believe that most members of the LGBT possess higher intelligence. Well, at least, for most people that I personally know of.

  • #9
    It would be better if you let your friend who's still in the closet to decide when the person wants to come out or if the person ever has plans of coming out. Just tell them that you're supporting them whatever their decision is


    • Gotchya
      Gotchya commented
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      People are too quick to judge when it comes to others' sexuality. They think that everything about them is their business as well.

    • alottavagina
      alottavagina commented
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      It takes time before people would come out of their shell without being pressured. It's hard for them because they've been contemplating it in their heads since then.

    • wigeon
      wigeon commented
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      brooksbrioche do you see yourself as an lgbtq ally?

  • #10
    I am not so sure but I think that we need to just be tolerable when they decide to come out and embrace their real selves.


    • imperfectme
      imperfectme commented
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      Let us not only be tolerable but let us be also accepting. Being tolerant is not enough. We need to accept them as they are without prejudice.

    • xXtinaGelo
      xXtinaGelo commented
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      Accept them as they are. It's what makes them human. We're all unique in our way, I'm an LGBTQ Ally myself.

    • imahappyclown
      imahappyclown commented
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      xXtinaGelo how long have you considered yourself as an ally?

  • #11
    Just let them do their thing.


    • snoogywookie
      snoogywookie commented
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      As long as they don't mind other peoples' business then people shouldn't be minding theirs

    • MoneyerHoney
      MoneyerHoney commented
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      Agree. We own have our own business.

  • #12
    Do you really think that they're still a small community? Maybe you need to go to any major city in order to know how big it is these days